Antediluvian Man

Changing one’s behavior, especially when it involves overcoming abusive tendencies, is a courageous and transformative journey. It requires dedication, self-reflection, and a commitment to personal growth. While this path may seem daunting, success lies in the cumulative effect of consistently making positive choices day after day. In this blog post, we will explore the importance…

Violence committed by men is a persistent and pervasive problem in our society. From physical abuse to sexual assault and harassment, men are often the perpetrators of such acts. The root cause of this violence can be traced back to the concept of patriarchy, a system in which men hold power and authority over women.…

Call it self control… self discipline… but at the end of the day shit will tweak you in some way, shape or form…. So it’s really about self regulation. Self-regulation is the process of controlling one’s emotions, thoughts, and behaviors. It’s an important skill for men to learn in order to manage their anger. Here…

Patriarchy: is a social and cultural system that privileges men and reinforces traditional gender roles. Sounds straight forward doesn’t it? But in “The Will To Change” Bell Hooks enlightened me to what a destructive force this really is. I’m not even done the book yet, but here are some segments from the book that hit…

Until a book was brought to my attention I had no idea that I was an abuser. Every man needs to read “Why Does He Do That?” by Lundy Bancroft. It’s an eye opener. For me, the most powerful passage challenged my personal myth that my anger makes me “lose control”. “When a client of…

How many men out there are “smart”? You know the answer before the question is complete. You don’t want idle chit chat… you want to move on from this problem and on to the next. But why? So I asked ChatGPT and it came back with: Bold items are my emphasis…. not because the others…

Nope… not stuffing. I know that’s what you think… but I’m talking about “I” statements and how we sneak in intended or unintended “you” statements that create a landscape of blame. Words matter. While you cannot control how your communication might be received, you can put effort into making sure you are as clear as…

I am mid-stream in learning how to be a human. I am a middle aged man who has lived with blinders on. Historically I’ve thought of myself as an open minded, kind and loving man. After years of mishandling situations at work and at home I have realized how myopic I have been. I am…