Antediluvian Man

Until a book was brought to my attention I had no idea that I was an abuser. Every man needs to read “Why Does He Do That?” by Lundy Bancroft. It’s an eye opener. For me, the most powerful passage challenged my personal myth that my anger makes me “lose control”. “When a client of…

How many men out there are “smart”? You know the answer before the question is complete. You don’t want idle chit chat… you want to move on from this problem and on to the next. But why? So I asked ChatGPT and it came back with: Bold items are my emphasis…. not because the others…

Nope… not stuffing. I know that’s what you think… but I’m talking about “I” statements and how we sneak in intended or unintended “you” statements that create a landscape of blame. Words matter. While you cannot control how your communication might be received, you can put effort into making sure you are as clear as…

I am mid-stream in learning how to be a human. I am a middle aged man who has lived with blinders on. Historically I’ve thought of myself as an open minded, kind and loving man. After years of mishandling situations at work and at home I have realized how myopic I have been. I am…