Antediluvian Man

Building and maintaining friendships can be a challenging endeavor, especially for adult men aged 30 and above who may have struggled with abusive behavior and language in the past. Many men in this age group find themselves facing unique obstacles when it comes to creating and nurturing interpersonal relationships. In this blog post, we will…

In a world that often perpetuates narrow and outdated stereotypes of masculinity, the concept of healthy masculinity emerges as a refreshing and vital perspective. Healthy masculinity challenges the traditional norms that limit men’s emotional expression, propagate violence, and reinforce power dynamics. Instead, it encourages a balanced and respectful approach that benefits individuals, relationships, and society…

For many men, navigating the complexities of the modern workplace can sometimes lead to feelings of frustration, humiliation, and fear. These emotions can often result from work-related challenges, conflicts with colleagues, or even personal expectations. Unfortunately, if left unaddressed, these negative emotions can seep into personal lives and strain relationships with loved ones. However, there…

Here are ten reputable sources that provide information, resources, and support for men who want to address and stop their abusive patterns: Seeking help and support is an essential step, but lasting change requires commitment, accountability, and ongoing self-reflection. These resources can provide valuable guidance, but individual therapy or counseling is often recommended for men…

Changing one’s behavior, especially when it involves overcoming abusive tendencies, is a courageous and transformative journey. It requires dedication, self-reflection, and a commitment to personal growth. While this path may seem daunting, success lies in the cumulative effect of consistently making positive choices day after day. In this blog post, we will explore the importance…

Violence committed by men is a persistent and pervasive problem in our society. From physical abuse to sexual assault and harassment, men are often the perpetrators of such acts. The root cause of this violence can be traced back to the concept of patriarchy, a system in which men hold power and authority over women.…

Call it self control… self discipline… but at the end of the day shit will tweak you in some way, shape or form…. So it’s really about self regulation. Self-regulation is the process of controlling one’s emotions, thoughts, and behaviors. It’s an important skill for men to learn in order to manage their anger. Here…

Patriarchy: is a social and cultural system that privileges men and reinforces traditional gender roles. Sounds straight forward doesn’t it? But in “The Will To Change” Bell Hooks enlightened me to what a destructive force this really is. I’m not even done the book yet, but here are some segments from the book that hit…

Until a book was brought to my attention I had no idea that I was an abuser. Every man needs to read “Why Does He Do That?” by Lundy Bancroft. It’s an eye opener. For me, the most powerful passage challenged my personal myth that my anger makes me “lose control”. “When a client of…

How many men out there are “smart”? You know the answer before the question is complete. You don’t want idle chit chat… you want to move on from this problem and on to the next. But why? So I asked ChatGPT and it came back with: Bold items are my emphasis…. not because the others…